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Today, You Will Learn How To Juggle | NextGen Speaks out on Fatherhood

Hello, My name is Paul. I believe that there are moments in our life and experiences we have that shape who we are and the type of parent we’d like to be/become. In order to to tell you my story, and why I feel juggling is an important life skill to pass on to my children it is necessary to take you on a journey into my past.

 

Way back in the land before time…

 

It is 1993 and I’m attending Red Deer College.

 

Instructor Larry Reese walks into Studio A and says to us,

“Today, you will learn how to juggle”.

 
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Lessons Learned | NextGen Speaks Out on Fatherhood

At one point, I knew I was the smartest person in the world. I knew more than anyone else, especially my parents. I was about 14. It was at that time that I also decided I never wanted kids.

 

It’s funny to see how much I’ve learned since then. My kids – Abigail, 8, Amalie, 4 and Andon, 1 – have taught me much of it.

 

The chemical and spiritual change that occurred in my life the second I met my first child brought about a different perspective altogether.

But living amidst their honest and innocent simplicity has taught me new lessons as well.

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Being a Dad is about Wrestling and Romance | NextGen Speaks Out on Fatherhood

I am romantic. I am luchadore. I am dad.

 

What does it means to be a dad? I mean uniquely a dad, as opposed to being a parent. In today’s modern society, moms and dads generally share parenting tasks equitably; but what makes dad distinct?

 

For me it comes down to two words:

wrestling and romance.

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NextGen Speaks Out | June Theme announcement

June’s NextGen Speaks Out! theme will be Fatherhood

 
Last month we paid homage to our mom’s, but we didn’t want to leave out the other half of the equasion, so since June is here with Father’s day around the corner, this month we will be taking time to recognize and appreciate the father’s in our life. Our dad’s play a different role in our lives than our mothers, their influences nurturing our development in a often unexpected or unconventional ways. Don’t just celebrate them on Father’s Day (June 17th) but take the opportunity celebrate our father’s and thank them for all they do for us and our community all month long. This month we’ll be asking our bloggers (who are also all fathers themselves) to expand on the theme by sharing their stories and resources, and relating their experiences and opinons in a way that only a father can.

 

Whether you are a parent, an expecting parent, or still savoring the child-free way of life, we hope our bloggers will provide an interesting, humourous, and enlightening (or perhaps eye-opening) peek into their lives. They might expose you to new information that you hadn’t heard about before, provide comfort in the knowledge that you aren’t alone, inspire you to make a small change to your own routine or encourage you to suggest resources to others.

 

We also want you to engage in discussion. Come on nextgener’s we know you have opinions and thoughts on these themes too. We’d love for you to comment, start a discussion, and share these posts with your networks.

Check back weekly as we will be adding new NextGen Speaks Out! posts regularly. We’re looking forward to it and hope you do too!

 

Disclaimer
NextGen Speaks Out, our guest blogging series, is envisioned as a hub for information and discussion. NextGen is a non-political, non-denominational organization focused on giving all nextgeners a voice. NextGen does not represent the opinions expressed by the individual columnists.

Edmonton’s NextGen + Pride Parade 2012

 

June 18, 2012 – UPDATE:

Edmonton’s NextGen is thrilled to received the award for “Best Overall Float” in the 2012 Pride Parade, presented by the Edmonton Pride Festival Society. A HUGE thanks goes to our more than 40 volunteers who walked, danced, and cheered along the parade route to help NextGen celebrate Edmonton’s diverse LGBT community.

Our float would not be possible without the support of our generous sponsors:  City of Edmonton, Allstar Show Industries, interVivos, Progress Unlimited, Ampersand Grey, Regency Developments, Bottom Line Productions, Notables, Gateway Press, and Broadway Across Canada.

Saturday, June 9, 2012 from 11:00 AM to 2:00 PM (MT)

Join Edmonton’s NextGen for its second time in the Edmonton Pride Parade on Saturday, June 9, 2012. We’re thrilled to participate in one of the best parties of the summer and celebrate Edmonton as a diverse and welcoming community for the next generation.

First 50 to register receive a limited edition NextGen t-shirt to wear during the event. Register today at http://nextgeninprideparade2012.eventbrite.com/.

Parade Staging will be between 11:00 am and 11:30 am on 108 Street between Jasper Avenue and 102 Avenue.  Upon arrival, please find someone in a NextGen t-shirt to check-in and sign a waiver.  Please be on time so that we can get lined up.

The Parade route starts on 108 Street and 102 Avenue and travels east on 102 Avenue to 99 Street. The parade will take up both lanes of 102 Avenue.

After the Parade all participants are encouraged to gather with us at Churchill Square to continue the festivities. Celebration on the Square includes the main stage, beer gardens, business and community information booths, merchandise and food vendors, and various forms of entertainment.

For more information on the Edmonton Pride Festival, visit http://edmontonpride.ca.

Here’s a gallery of great pictures of NextGen at Pride in 2011.

 

Communities: The social fabric of our city | NextGen Speaks Out on Community

It’s difficult for me to imagine a world without communities. Perhaps because it’s human nature to find like minded people to collaborate with, the process of forming a community is quite natural.

 

I’ve seen the amazing things communities can accomplish with my own eyes.

From an assembly of just a few neighbours, to a group of thousands, communities can accomplish things that an individual can dream about, but that take many to actualize.

The diversity of Edmonton’s communities is as great as the diversity of its citizens
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NextGen Speaks Out | March Theme announcement

March’s NextGen Speaks Out! theme will be community.

 

Community is such a large part of our lives. We are all part of many smaller and intersecting communities. We gather together based on region (like our nieghbourhood or city), around a shared interest (like sports, religion, or comic books), or for other reasons (like work or cultural). Sometimes you will be active in your communities and other times you’ll just be a member of that community. What can you learn from others in your community circles? What can you contributeThis month we’ll be bringing you posts focused around this idea and hope you look forward to reading and sharing your thoughts on the ideas presented by our guest bloggers.

 

We also want you to engage in discussion. Come on nextgener’s we know you have opinions and thoughts on these themes too. We’d love for you to comment, start a discussion, and share these posts with your networks.

Check back weekly as we will be adding new NextGen Speaks Out! posts regularly. We’re looking forward to it and hope you do too!

 

Disclaimer
NextGen Speaks Out, our guest blogging series, is envisioned as a hub for information and discussion. NextGen is a non-political, non-denominational organization focused on giving all nextgeners a voice. NextGen does not represent the opinions expressed by the individual columnists.

Relationships at work: an HR perspective | NextGen Speaks Out on Relationships

We’ve heard it all before – you don’t have to like the people you work with, but you do need to be professional and respectful in your work relationships. But why?

What if you just don’t like someone you work with and never will?  Can’t you just avoid them instead?

 

Given the amount of time that most of us spend at work, having professional and respectful relationships will lead to a more positive work environment.  Some of you may have (or do) work in a situation where you have to drag yourself into work every day because of the nature of the relationships at work.  How did/does that make you feel?  Were you able to do your best work in that environment?  Most people are not able to.

 

Here’s a common situation:
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Relationships – Expect the Unexpected

Often, people come to see me because they are in immediate crisis or because they are going through some significant transitions in their lives. In the course of conversation, we will often talk about what I sometimes refer to as their support network – those people who are ‘there’ for them, who love them without condition, who care deeply about them, who challenge them, who stand by them and walk with them.

 

Most times, people will share with me a list of people on whom they can rely and they speak fondly of them – spouses or partners who are doing all they can to help, parents who are doing their best to understand, siblings who keep in regular touch even though their own lives may be stressed to the max, friends who drop everything and show up to help out. Some talk about how praying and believing in a Power greater than their own is also a source of support and comfort.

 

Not infrequently, however, people in crisis or major transition, will share stories of how they have been surprised both positively and negatively by some of those with whom they are in relationship.
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Top 12 Phrases Your Single Friends Don’t Want to Hear on Valentine’s | NextGen Speaks Out on Relationships

Ah Valentine’s Day, that day of the year set aside for lovers and romance. Visions of Cupid in his cute little diaper with heart-shaped arrows flitting around making people’s soul mate dreams come true. Wait…what? A diaper? Who thought of that?! As a Mother, I assure you, there is NOTHING romantic about diapers… Anyway… I digress.

 

Valentine’s Day, the day of overpriced flowers, expensive chocolate and feathery lingerie. Thankfully, I am not stressed. No significant other means no searching through rows of ridiculously expensive cards to find one that expresses the right amount of “love” for a person I do not. So rather than concentrate on the whole V-Day hoopla, Andrea and I have put together our list of most hated “being single on Valentine’s Day drivel” for your entertainment.
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Zombie Hamster Apocalypse is Upon Us | NextGen Speaks Out on Relationships

I’m working with a lovely couple who are having the same problems many couples have. Wilma doesn’t feel like she get her needs met and gets hurt, angry and critical. Her husband, Fred feeling criticized and attacked, gets defensive and either withdraws or lashes out angrily – both of which do nothing but add fuel to the fire.

 

Fred and Wilma came in for a few sessions and after a while they both agreed that they felt like they were “hamsters running around the same old treadmill, over and over again, blaming each other.” I told them that it’s worse than that. They aren’t just cute hamsters running along side one other, getting themselves tired and then ready for bed after a long hamster day together. They have become…

ZOMBIE HAMSTERS!


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